Today, as I was reading my friends feed on Facebook, I saw one of my aquaintances had posted this:
I am *redacted* pounds. I’m curvy and beautiful. I will never have a flat tummy but I support true beauty. Re-post with your real weight if you support true beauty.
Nice sentiment, isn’t it?
Except, in a world where anything that is bigger than a size 2 is considered to be Fatty McFatterson and people think that they can tell everything about a person – their eating habits, their health, how much they exercise (or don’t exercise) – because they are obese. Except in a world where people think they have the right to tell other people what to eat, or call them liars when they insist that they exercise.
Predictably, a response came in on that status that basically read everything fat people hear all the time. You’re unhealthy. I know you are unhealthy because you’re so fat! You’re ugly! And you are ugly because you are fat! (This is very boiled down, and the person who responded did not call the original person fat or unhealthy.)
I’m not going to get into it on my acquaintance’s wall. I’ve learned, there’s no reasoning with bigotry.
However, I would like to see a world where a different meme comes into play.
This person had such an opportunity to embrace the spirit of the message: that one doesn’t have to be a size 2 in order to be beautiful. That while fat people may not be their cup of tea, that doesn’t make them ugly. Instead, that person showed their true ugliness by their words. And in doing so, could inadvertently hurt somebody they don’t even know.
All because the world has such a skewed up sense of what “healthy” means, and that beauty (which is a personal assessment and not something that can be objectively measured) has nothing to do with health. Because the world has confused “thin” with “health”. Because even doctors contribute to the lie that one can just look at a person and tell how healthy they are.
No, I won’t be sharing this on my wall. Not because I’m afraid to put out my weight. I’ve done it before, I’ll do it again. Heck, I’ll do right now, even. I weigh about 245 (don’t know the actual weight because I don’t own a scale and it’s been a year since my last medical visit), I am 5’2″ tall. So, that puts me in the “Deathfatz” category. (And yet, I still manage to do all these things that should give me a heart attack immediately!)
The reason I won’t repost is that I refuse to perpetuate the hurt that will cause, may have already caused, in some person’s life. I can only hope more people will NOT repost this meme.