Sometimes, talking about fat acceptance feels like I’m trying to empty out Lake Michigan with a teaspoon. I really need a bigger spoon.
Sometimes, I can see where I’ve given people something to think. It helps to know my audience. Recently, in an internet debate about whether fat is bad or not, somebody said something to the effect of “everybody knows fat is bad.” Knowing my audience, I was able to retort with “Everybody knows all gays are wrong and that you have to keep your children away from them!” It made somebody think.
The incidences of people thinking is so much lower than the incidences of people being ignorant and just wanting to stay in their ignorance. One person in this debate (a troll, and I gave him all the attention he deserved) stated that all fat people should be put into an Escape from New York type of environment. Granted he was a troll, but nobody engaging him said anything was wrong with that idea. Another person basically said that deporting all fat people to a specific island would be bad, as the island would sink and it would kill all the animals and plants on the island.
For the record, I rated her attempt at humor at a -5.
The thing that gets to me is people can sit there, make statements like that, see other people make statements like that, not say anything to the others about the sheer atrociousness of the statements, yet say that I’m engaging in hyperbole when I call a spade a spade. Or in this case, I use the words “fat hatred”.
People can say it’s okay to kill all fat people, and that’s not considered hatred? Then what is, pray tell?
The other thing that’s getting to me is when people liberally use the word “you” in their arguments, saying things like “you are lazy, slothful, gluttonous” and then say that it’s the people (read me) who are taking it personally. When she was responding to me, to specific arguments I made, and using the word “you” all the time … Ummm, how is that NOT personal. When I called her on it, she said, “oh, no, I didn’t mean that! I was including myself in that too!” Umm, no.
See, people who are including themselves in arguements will say something to the order of “people, myself included, are generally lazy, slothful, gluttonous”. Not “you are lazy, slothful, gluttonous.”
I know, I know, I really shouldn’t keep going back there. But if I don’t, who will? No, really, the threads that get started about fat like this are usually populated by people talking about the death fat as if it’s real. They talk about the obesity epipanic as if it was real, and how fat people are ruining everything, costing them money, etc, as if it was real. There’s nobody who is saying the opposite view.
So, I’m doing it. I even might get somebody to think about something.
But I definitely need a bigger spoon.