In China, if a person is too short, they may be denied entry into universities, denied jobs, and (of course) left out of the dating pool. So, people who are too short are starting to take drastic and dangerous measures to become taller.
Watching that video made me realize: It’s really not about being fat. It has nothing to do with my health (or assumed lack there of) being a fat person. It has nothing to do with how much money it’s presumed I’m costing the global health system, or even how much food I’m presumed to eat and how it stresses the global food supply, creating global food shortages for more deserving (read thin) people.
It’s about not being whatever the dominant society says is acceptable. In most western nations, it’s daring to live fat in a skinny society. It’s daring to get off the merry-go-round of constant dieting. It’s daring to have enough self-esteem to stop doing things that are ultimately hurtful to my mind, body, and spirit.
It really doesn’t have anything to do with fat or height. It has everything to do with daring to be yourself.
Dare to be yourself today. Eat what you want to eat, even if it’s at McDonalds, and don’t give in to the guilt afterwards. Dress in whatever color you want, in whatever style you want, even if it’s a color or style fat people should never ever EVER wear. Do what you want today, even if it’s “just” taking a down day and watching the movie or reading that book you’ve been wanting to for the past six months but couldn’t find the time to do it. Enjoy being yourself. Don’t worry what the dominant culture will say about what you are eating, drinking, dressing in, or doing (or not doing).
Because the dominant culture is only concerned with what it thinks makes it look good. If you fall outside of it’s parameters, you will always be lacking. Even if you are dieting and exercising 4 hours a day. Even if there is no other cause for your height than genetics. The dominant culture doesn’t care about you or your happiness, your development as a person.
Which is why you have to care about you . Which is why you have to do what you can to live the life you want to live, whether or not you meet the dominant cultures standards of beauty or health. Do what’s best for you (and only you can decide what is best for you at any given minute).
It’s not about fat. It never has been.